Butt orgasms! They’re not just for prostate exam patients anymore.
Regardless of your sexuality, there’s no denying that putting something in your butt and strategically rubbing it around can feel kind of fucking great, especially since the anus is packed with more pleasurable nerve endings than almost anywhere else in your body. Straight, gay, or something in between, all men are united by their singular and explosive capability to have a prostate orgasm, yet the technique is surprisingly underutilized due to its stigma and mistaken association with homosexuality.
However, prostate stimulation (or prostate milking, or a “P-Spot orgasm” as it’s sometimes called) is becoming an increasingly popular way for men to get off as guys everywhere are starting to feel more comfortable with their own sexuality and erotic needs. More and more, people are realizing that pleasure is pleasure, and if the road to it goes through your butt … so be it.
For the uninitiated, the prostate is a small gland directly under the bladder that presses against the frontal wall of the anus. Typically, it’s about two inches up there, but can be a little further up depending on the individual. It’s about the size of a walnut, and feels a little firmer and rougher than the rest of the anal cavity.
You can stimulate it much in the same way you would a female G-Spot, although I’d always recommend doubling down on the lube anytime there’s an anus involved.
Fingers, toys, penises or any other safe object your butt can accommodate can all be inserted to stimulate the prostate, but for beginners, I’d recommend exploring your own P-Spot with a toy first to familiarize yourself with the feeling of butt stuff. Then, once you’re comfortable with the sensation, let a partner stimulate it with their fingers, and move on from there.
But why, you ask, would you want to move into new territory when your penis already does a perfectly fine job of orgasming for you on its own?
Because, silly man, the penis is limiting. Why have one type of orgasm for the rest of your life, enduring the same feeling over and over, when you could expand your capacity for pleasure into new, uncharted realms? Women are kind of killing it that they can at least three different types of orgasm (although some experts say it’s up to 11), so why rob yourself of the ability to do the same? You too deserve diversity of pleasure, and prostate stimulation is a powerful jumping off point into the many ways you can come.
But, enough convincing from my end. Instead, I’ve searched the hollows of Reddit and the rest of the internet to find some first-hand male accounts of what having a prostate orgasm is actually like. Some of these men’s accounts are long and instructional; others are concise. Yet all of them make a pretty convincing case for branching out from your dick.
And from the looks of things, I really wish I had a prostate …
“This morning I had my first prostate orgasm and holy shitballs. Only took say 10 minutes. I used the handle end of a toothbrush, as I don’t have any sex shops handy, and it was completely effective. I will be buying a toy in the very near future. Toothbrush has been disposed of.
Now, how did it feel? It was definitely NOT genital as has been mentioned above, it came from within my pelvis, deep to my body, and when it hit it was overwhelming and completely uncontrollable.
Within 30 seconds, I started to feel like I couldn’t hold my bladder anymore, but I knew from a little research this morning that feeling was false, and was really my prostate. I kept up with the stimulation, was not terribly vigorous, and within another 30 seconds, my body completely took over and I felt this warm rush of fluid evacuating itself from my pelvis through my urethra. I have a momentary freakout thinking I’ve urinated on my bed, I look down, and see the most humongous load I’ve ever seen, no urine in sight.
I convulsed there for a good minute, feeling waves throughout my body, and also feeling supreme satisfaction to have finally successfully had a prostate orgasm. There is definitely a spaghetti legs feeling still, and a lovely afterglow.
Not the easiest thing in the world to achieve but with practice I’d say it’s totally f’n worth it.”
“I find it feels A LOT better than a normal orgasm. Still relatively similar in the way it feel but just more intense. And longer lasting. I also find I generally cum more as well…”
“For me, I find that I am simply overcome by the sheer power of the orgasm. It’s not a whole lot better, per se, but it is a lot stronger. As in after it happens I’m stuck there out of breath and trembling for at least a few minutes. As if all of my energy had just been sucked out of my body and concentrated into a ridiculous orgasm. P-spot is the way to go. It doesn’t replace a regular orgasm, but it makes a really nice treat every once in a while. Especially if you can achieve it through pegging. Pegging is the best ever. Hands down.”
“Like a a unicorn exploding in your urethra.”
“It feels like a new type of pressure … like that post orgasmic feeling but deep in your body/pelvis. And once orgasm does hit … it feels like a stream of cum and a continuous orgasm instead of a pulsing one. Get your SO to give you head while doing it … Best feeling ever …”
“To be honest, its not this magical difference between normal masturbation, its just a little different, but also definitely better. The sensation of having something up your anus is simultaneously weird and exhilarating.
And when you start slowly thrusting it against your prostate…you know that tingly feeling you get when you have a really hard erection and haven’t touched your penis for a week or so (I’m not referring to one of those chubs that you pull out cause you’re like fuck it I’m not going anywhere today and I hate my life, but those really hard erections that are begging to be stroked) and you haven’t even touched your penis yet but you know right when you place your hands on it that first stroke is gonna feel amazing? It’s kinda like that, except it transcends the shaft and spills throughout your balls and pelvic region and inner thighs, almost paralyzing you from the waist down.
And when you’re really going at it, it feels like those few seconds before you’re about to ejaculate except you usually don’t ejaculate and it just doesn’t stop.”
“Personally for me, and I don’t know if this is the case with anyone else, but for some reason when I focus on prostate massaging, I really end up killing my boner and its tough to keep it up, so that’s maybe the only annoying thing about it. But it feels so good that I don’t really mind.”
“It’s almost like I go catatonic. I don’t really realize what’s going on around me. It just feels REALLY awesome and I’m completely focused on the incredible sensations.”
“At the very beginning, after the fingers are inserted and the massage starts, I feel a “buzz” that envelopes the entire mid section of my body. From my thighs to the upper abdomen. I can’t say it feels awesome at this point, and if I’m not completely relaxed, it’s a bit uncomfortable. However, a few deep breaths will make the discomfort pass.
The nudging and bumping of the finger against my prostate feels divine. I can actually feel sensations in my penis, although it’s not being touched. Very odd, but extremely erotic. If a vibrating stimulator is being used, the sensations are even more intense. Click here to learn more about these awesome devices.
For me, when it’s done right, I have an urge to pee, but I never do. I have literally no control when I cum…it just happens. I’ve found it’s best to just enjoy, relax and let it happen.”