Category Archives: Experience

What It’s Like When A Guy Orgasms From JUST Butt Play

And hot damn, are they goooood!

I’ve been chasing the prostate orgasm for months, perhaps years now, the way many women chase that elusive first g-spot orgasm. And while some assholes may still question the existence of a g-spot, there’s no doubt that the prostate exists.

The question is rather — can it produce pleasure on its own?

I’d heard tell around the campfire, my friends, about the orgasm without ejaculation, drawn out by prostate stimulation. 

I was told it could be long, and multiple, and unlike anything I’d ever experienced — namely, short and single.

After all our bodies are designed so once the semen shoots out, shop gets closed up, the lights get turned off, and our balls say, “You don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here.”

I think I’d come close, once, with a very special friend who was intent on focusing on me instead of her. She had me feeling all sorts of unique and new sensationsbefore putting her mouth on me to finish the job. That orgasm had an ejaculation, indeed, but the erection didn’t immediately subside.

Looked like someone forgot to turn off the lights. The factory was still producing.

This fascinated me, because that never happens. I’m one of those people that, once I orgasm, the chemicals being produced change my point of view so suddenly that I feel like I never need to have sex again.

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.

Unlike the g-spot, which can be an elusive to say the least, but fairly common practice amongst the open friends of my social circle, I’d never known anyone who’d actually managed a prostate orgasm.

Not only that, most of them seemed not to care.

But I cared. I cared big time.

Much of my definition of sex (which as many of you know I’ve been trying to alter) has been caught up in that white jizzy final expulsion.

Since I know (thyself) myself, and that I have that “closed for business entirely” sensibility after an orgasm, I tend to put my partner’s pleasure first almost entirely. Once she has had an orgasm, or many, only then do I allow myself to head in that direction.

Because of that, the idea of an orgasm that wouldn’t end things is tremendously appealing.

The problems with chasing such an orgasm are many.

It’s a sensitive area indeed. And the prostate orgasm, much like a first g-spot orgasm, requires a lot of time, concentration, and effort to go after.

If they exist at all, that is. And Tristan Taormino has assured me they do, as not only has she seen one, but she’s CREATED one.

Of course, if Tristan laid those beautiful hands on me …

But I digress.

All this talk about the possibility that they don’t exist is silly — though, isn’t it. Especially now that I’ve had one, anyway.

Oh yes.

Yesterday, on a bed near the rooftop hot tub at Desire Resort and Spa, as I enjoyed demonstrating the nJoy Eleven on a very willing volunteer, I asked if someone might insert my favorite butt plug, handmade by the incredibly talented Boris.

A volunteer came forward, a beautiful woman whom I’d shared a lot of eye contact and some kisses with at our speed dating event. I was assured she was a professional (though I wasn’t certain what that meant at the time) and that I shouldn’t worry. As it was a fairly small plug, I wasn’t worried to begin with. I thanked her for her enthusiasm and continued with the nJoy on my lovely playmate.

After insertion, she didn’t step back, she continued to manipulate, pressing the plug, moving it in and out, circling it.

Before long I was distracted.

Before long after that I could no longer continue with the Eleven. (Which was all right, as my playmate had brought out her LELO Siri and had intoned that she might have had enough of the massive Eleven.) I continued to kneel on top of her as she played with herself, responding compersively to my spasms, which are quite common during anal stimulation.

Before long I could no longer support myself, the distraction was too great, and I asked if she would mind if I flipped over and lie down. She asked if I was doing alright, if it was too much, making contact on my arm and thigh with her hands as she asked. Tremendously comforting.

I told her my stock response about safe words: As I’m not into fake, forced pain, I’m perfectly comfortable with my safe word being “Ouch, ouch, that hurts!

But you’ll say that if it hurts?

I’ll say it,” I promised.

She became more aggressive, moving her whole body into it, gripping my thigh and my arm at times, putting her hand on my chest to gain leverage, to hold me down, to push the energy right into me.

Somewhere in there, it started.

I’ve always achieved small spasms during prostate play, the kind of spasms you hit as your penis is being played with, those early signposts that you’re going in the right direction. With prostate stim these moments were usually brief but very pleasurable. I found these spasms growing longer and closer together. Becoming full tremors, full body shaking. Bigger and bigger, closer and closer, until the gap between them disappeared.

And here’s where it all gets fuzzy and dreamlike.

Once the gap vanished it was like a wave rushing toward shore that wasn’t breaking, and the shore just moved along at the same speed as the wave. On and on the shakiness rolled, spasming, rocking my body. I couldn’t breath. I couldn’t think.

Shhh, don’t clench,” she whispered to me, running her fingers up and down my very tense legs. My hands were indeed clenched into tight fists. I opened them and put my head back down.

Just breathe.

This continued for the better part of an hour. At least I think so. Time lost meaning and I honestly have no idea. I may have been orgasming for decades there, or only a minute. Though I’ve since been assured it was almost fifty minutes from the beginning of the “clearly orgasmic” portion of my time on that bed to the end. When I threw the flag down and tapped out.

I thanked her muchly, and she assured me that I had indeed progressed through many and varied orgasms — if my face and body were any indication.

As I lie there, basking for just a moment, a curious thing hit me. An aftershock tremor hit, causing me to curl up my knees to my chest. This by itself was surprising enough, but when these tremors continued during the walk back to our room, during the shower before dinner, during getting food from the buffet (to the point where I had to ask a friend to get me a deviled egg because I couldn’t hold the tongs steady), and through on to eating.

Only after sitting at dinner for a half hour or so did they finally begin to subside.

A nearly endless orgasm with the vast capacity for more. Without the standard feelings of “M’kay, I’m done.” A whole new world.

She made me promise to show her how the nJoy Eleven works. I asked her if she’s done any pegging. She admitted she hadn’t had much experience at all with a harness, but was game to experiment.

How thrilling that is.

After all, I’m no longer chasing the possibly mythical prostate orgasm. Now I’m just chasing the very real NEXT prostate orgasm.

O happy day!

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Ever Since I Had My First Prostate Orgasm They Just Keep On COMING

Yes, Virginia, they do exist.

A lot has been said about g-spot orgasms and gushing/squirting orgasms for women. A lot by me in fact. Specifically, I’ve talked at length about the impressiveness of the gushing orgasm, something that seems to be directly connected to the g-spot orgasm suddenly being achieved from clitoral stimulation, or even lighter, more subtle stimulation.

I refer to this as “flipping a switch,” because those women I know who have been able to transition from the gushing orgasm only being an occasional thing directly connected to intense g-spot stimulation (usually via a brute force g-spot stimulator like the nJoy Eleven or the Pure Wand) to something they experience on a more and more frequent occurrence without any direct g-spot stimulation at all.

I’ve even heard a few women lament that once the switch was flipped on, there was no going back. (My good friend Shira B once texted me asking how to stop it!)

I don’t know why, but I’d never considered the same might be true of the epic orgasms achieved by prostate stimulation.

I suppose it’s partly because prostate orgasms are so rare in my experience … and in the media … and in general conversation.

They’re also fairly hard to describe. And let’s face it, we orgasming men are lucky enough to have VERY easy to describe orgasms. (Hint: It usually involves ejaculation.)

The lack of easy to find descriptions of prostate orgasms, both from givers and havers, is what partly caused me to still debate whether that was even what I’d actually experienced last year like I thought I had, courtesy of an amazing Blonde. But no, after talking to everybody (perhaps an exaggeration, but I talked to a lot of people) about it, the general consensus is that my tremor-inducing, extended sequence of spasms was indeed the elusive prostate orgasm.

So a funny thing happened since then. I think my switch was flipped. 

I’ve had a few minor prostate orgasms since then that resulted directly from prostate stimulation and didn’t include ejaculation. These felt the same as that major orgasm I had last year but were a bit shorter and lighter.

Each resulted in the same kind of uncontrollable tremors that only seem to increase in sensation, each caused me to involuntarily draw my knees up to my chest and each caused aftershocks for a period of time afterward.

Can I describe the feeling? Not really. Ejaculation always leaves me feeling drained, as though Brigadier General Jack D. Ripper’s crazy notions about the depletion of Precious Bodily Fluids was actually true. This is why, in fact, I work especially hard to please my lady before having one as a policy because once that orgasm comes I find it difficult to even focus my eyes occasionally.

But these prostate orgasms … I’ve even found myself laughing throughout the tremors.

Fascinating. Exhilarating.

So the switch?

Well, the tremors started appearing during “traditional” orgasms that include ejaculation. Often just after an orgasm, I’d be able to ride the wave for a good thirty seconds to a minute, whereas, as I’m sure many of my male-bodied friends out there will agree, most of them are a shoot-sensation-done kind of affair.

Then last Saturday night I experienced something new.

After a particularly vigorous play session with mutual oral stimulation (am I the only one who finds those specific words VERY sexy?) I came — a big traditional orgasm, indeed. Then I lay down next to the amazing woman who brought me there and started to shake.

The tremors that turned out to be the final wave just lapped and lapped, rising and falling, hitting alternately heavily and softly, on and on.

For perhaps fifteen minutes.

Now I’ve wondered about these tremors in the past because occasionally I feel like I jumpstart them mentally. This has led me to wonder if there was a set of mental gymnastics I was doing subconsciously to convince myself I was feeling something.

But then I discarded that thought, because if I can mentally cause an orgasm, does that make it less real?

And if I can mentally achieve the sensation of orgasm without the stimulation, is that somehow fake?

No. They ALL come from my head anyway. They all come from all of our heads, don’t they?

I’m unsure where this leads now. Will these tremor orgasms be a part of all of my orgasms now? They don’t seem to occur when I’m “taking care of myself,” which might suggest an openness to them in paired situations. (I’m often just looking to shoot and go to bed when on my own.)

All I do know is that a switch has been flipped, and I have one very important woman to thank for flipping it the first time, and then those who have flipped it since.

I can’t wait to see how they grow and change.

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Men describe what it’s like to have a prostate orgasm and … wow. Just wow.

Butt orgasms! They’re not just for prostate exam patients anymore.

Regardless of your sexuality, there’s no denying that putting something in your butt and strategically rubbing it around can feel kind of fucking great, especially since the anus is packed with more pleasurable nerve endings than almost anywhere else in your body. Straight, gay, or something in between, all men are united by their singular and explosive capability to have a prostate orgasm, yet the technique is surprisingly underutilized due to its stigma and mistaken association with homosexuality.

However, prostate stimulation (or prostate milking, or a “P-Spot orgasm” as it’s sometimes called) is becoming an increasingly popular way for men to get off as guys everywhere are starting to feel more comfortable with their own sexuality and erotic needs. More and more, people are realizing that pleasure is pleasure, and if the road to it goes through your butt … so be it.

For the uninitiated, the prostate is a small gland directly under the bladder that presses against the frontal wall of the anus. Typically, it’s about two inches up there, but can be a little further up depending on the individual. It’s about the size of a walnut, and feels a little firmer and rougher than the rest of the anal cavity.

You can stimulate it much in the same way you would a female G-Spot, although I’d always recommend doubling down on the lube anytime there’s an anus involved.

Fingers, toys, penises or any other safe object your butt can accommodate can all be inserted to stimulate the prostate, but for beginners, I’d recommend exploring your own P-Spot with a toy first to familiarize yourself with the feeling of butt stuff. Then, once you’re comfortable with the sensation, let a partner stimulate it with their fingers, and move on from there.

But why, you ask, would you want to move into new territory when your penis already does a perfectly fine job of orgasming for you on its own?

Because, silly man, the penis is limiting. Why have one type of orgasm for the rest of your life, enduring the same feeling over and over, when you could expand your capacity for pleasure into new, uncharted realms? Women are kind of killing it that they can at least three different types of orgasm (although some experts say it’s up to 11), so why rob yourself of the ability to do the same? You too deserve diversity of pleasure, and prostate stimulation is a powerful jumping off point into the many ways you can come.

But, enough convincing from my end. Instead, I’ve searched the hollows of Reddit and the rest of the internet to find some first-hand male accounts of what having a prostate orgasm is actually like. Some of these men’s accounts are long and instructional; others are concise. Yet all of them make a pretty convincing case for branching out from your dick.

And from the looks of things, I really wish I had a prostate …

“This morning I had my first prostate orgasm and holy shitballs. Only took say 10 minutes. I used the handle end of a toothbrush, as I don’t have any sex shops handy, and it was completely effective. I will be buying a toy in the very near future. Toothbrush has been disposed of.

Now, how did it feel? It was definitely NOT genital as has been mentioned above, it came from within my pelvis, deep to my body, and when it hit it was overwhelming and completely uncontrollable.

Within 30 seconds, I started to feel like I couldn’t hold my bladder anymore, but I knew from a little research this morning that feeling was false, and was really my prostate. I kept up with the stimulation, was not terribly vigorous, and within another 30 seconds, my body completely took over and I felt this warm rush of fluid evacuating itself from my pelvis through my urethra. I have a momentary freakout thinking I’ve urinated on my bed, I look down, and see the most humongous load I’ve ever seen, no urine in sight.

I convulsed there for a good minute, feeling waves throughout my body, and also feeling supreme satisfaction to have finally successfully had a prostate orgasm. There is definitely a spaghetti legs feeling still, and a lovely afterglow.

Not the easiest thing in the world to achieve but with practice I’d say it’s totally f’n worth it.”

“I find it feels A LOT better than a normal orgasm. Still relatively similar in the way it feel but just more intense. And longer lasting. I also find I generally cum more as well…”

“For me, I find that I am simply overcome by the sheer power of the orgasm. It’s not a whole lot better, per se, but it is a lot stronger. As in after it happens I’m stuck there out of breath and trembling for at least a few minutes. As if all of my energy had just been sucked out of my body and concentrated into a ridiculous orgasm. P-spot is the way to go. It doesn’t replace a regular orgasm, but it makes a really nice treat every once in a while. Especially if you can achieve it through pegging. Pegging is the best ever. Hands down.”

“Like a a unicorn exploding in your urethra.”

“It feels like a new type of pressure … like that post orgasmic feeling but deep in your body/pelvis. And once orgasm does hit … it feels like a stream of cum and a continuous orgasm instead of a pulsing one. Get your SO to give you head while doing it … Best feeling ever …”

“To be honest, its not this magical difference between normal masturbation, its just a little different, but also definitely better. The sensation of having something up your anus is simultaneously weird and exhilarating.

And when you start slowly thrusting it against your prostate…you know that tingly feeling you get when you have a really hard erection and haven’t touched your penis for a week or so (I’m not referring to one of those chubs that you pull out cause you’re like fuck it I’m not going anywhere today and I hate my life, but those really hard erections that are begging to be stroked) and you haven’t even touched your penis yet but you know right when you place your hands on it that first stroke is gonna feel amazing? It’s kinda like that, except it transcends the shaft and spills throughout your balls and pelvic region and inner thighs, almost paralyzing you from the waist down.

And when you’re really going at it, it feels like those few seconds before you’re about to ejaculate except you usually don’t ejaculate and it just doesn’t stop.”

“Personally for me, and I don’t know if this is the case with anyone else, but for some reason when I focus on prostate massaging, I really end up killing my boner and its tough to keep it up, so that’s maybe the only annoying thing about it. But it feels so good that I don’t really mind.”

“It’s almost like I go catatonic.  I don’t really realize what’s going on around me.  It just feels REALLY awesome and I’m completely focused on the incredible sensations.”

“At the very beginning, after the fingers are inserted and the massage starts, I feel a “buzz” that envelopes the entire mid section of my body.  From my thighs to the upper abdomen.  I can’t say it feels awesome at this point, and if I’m not completely relaxed, it’s a bit uncomfortable.  However, a few deep breaths will make the discomfort pass.

The nudging and bumping of the finger against my prostate feels divine.  I can actually feel sensations in my penis, although it’s not being touched.  Very odd, but extremely erotic.  If a vibrating stimulator is being used, the sensations are even more intense.  Click here to learn more about these awesome devices.

For me, when it’s done right, I have an urge to pee, but I never do.  I have literally no control when I cum…it just happens.  I’ve found it’s best to just enjoy, relax and let it happen.”

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Men: The Most Intense Prostate Orgasm EVER

I made that sign and mounted it to the wall.  It takes up a lot of space that could be filled with other products, but the sign is important.  It is meant to draw the attention of guys who are intrigued by experiencing what the sign promises, the most intense prostate orgasm!

As men, no one tells us (honestly) that a toy or a lube or ANYTHING is going to improve our orgasm.  To be honest, it is usually pretty good regardless … I have never heard my friends tell me they just had an orgasm, “but it wasn’t good”.  In the words of one of my friends, “even a bad blowjob is still good!”  But do you hear men talk about having an intense male orgasm?  No.  We came, and it was great, thank you. They had not experienced a prostate orgasm yet!

In the stores, the girls test all the products.  Since I give them a very large discount on any of the sex toys they want, they tend to purchase multiple sex toys and try them out.  The fun thing about a store like LoveWorks is that everyone has no shame coming back to work the next day and talking about how good or bad the toy worked while their boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/onenightstand was doing the nasty with them.  But none ever come back and say they had most intense orgasm ever; or more specifically, that their boyfriend ever had most intense orgasm ever.

And they get excited when new sex toys arrive, sometimes saying things that come out without a “filter” — things that perhaps, as the boss, I shouldn’t hear.  “I can’t wait to put that toy in my …” I shake my head and laugh, because of the size of the huge dildo that had just been unpackaged.  

But when it comes to new mens toys, they are at a disadvantage, as they are not equipped.  Well, to the best of my knowledge, none of them are “equipped”!  

And going back to the beginning of this post, I said that most mens toys are nothing to get excited about.  When we receive a new pocket pussy, molded after the latest hot porn star, no one is running to my office asking me to review it, because there is no need.  They are mostly the same; the material may have changed, or it is designed after a different porn star.  But in the end, the male pocket pussys are pretty much the same.  

My friends at Doc Johnson and Sweedish Erotica might not like that I call the toys all the same, but they are.  The boxes tell us that this one is a mold of Tera Patrick and this one is Shania Twain.  It is still the same design and function.  Yes, I’m kidding about selling a Shania toy.

Most intense orgasm; prostate orgasm; prostate stimulator

Aneros SGXWhen Aneros prostate stimulation toys first appeared on the market, I was helping unpack merchandise and saw the prostate toy immediately.  All of us had seen ads and articles in our trade publication about the Aneros and everything we read was positive.  All the sale literature hyped was about the prostate orgasm being like none other.

My staff immediately pressed me into service and told me that SOMEONE had to test the Aneros and I was the only male in the building.  I wasn’t excited about it because to me, it was nothing more than another $60 butt plug.

I believe the first one I tried was the SGX; at the time, the skinnier Eupho wasn’t on the market.  Other than an occasional finger in my butt, I wasn’t much of an anal guy.  I have nothing against it, but Hemorrhoids have always prevented me from experimenting with much anal play.  TMI?  Oh well, too bad, this is a review of a prostate stimulatopm sex toy that goes in your butt, what can I say??  🙂

That night, after telling my wife about the experiment, I went into the bathroom to insert the prostate toy.  For whatever reason, I wasn’t keen on letting my wife wach me insert it, as I was worried about grimacing in pain and her saying “See, that is why I don’t let you fuck me in the ass”.

So I used a thick lube, pushed the lube into my butt with my finger and tried to relax.  [NOTE TO SELF:  This process would have been better if I had an anal shooter].  Lubed the prostate stimulation toy and began the journey to darker territory.  It didn’t feel good half way in, which is the widest part of the anal invader.  But right after the largest part was inserted, my butt sucked the toy in to the base like a vacuum going after a feather boa.

I squeezed my pee muscle (or “poop” muscle if you prefer) and could feel the prostate toy move up and down slightly and it felt good, but not as good as the description.  According to the ad copy, I should begin seeing my penis “drool” with pre-cum, as the toy pressed against the prostate and began providing prostate stimulation.  (This NEVER EVER happened with me, but other customers told me that pre-cum flowed out after inserting the toy!)

What was really surprising me was that I was losing my erection with the prostate toy inserted.  I assume that my system was unhappy that there was an attempt to hack my back door and was shutting down all services, takes us to defcon 1, and preventing any further unauthorized entries.

Of course, being with my wife, it didn’t really matter.  We could sit around and laugh about this for a while, and fool around doing other things until my city manager was ready to fill the fire hose.  

After a few minutes, my erection was back and I was ready to begin having intercourse.  In the general stroking in and out, there was nothing unusual, except that my mind knew something was up my butt.  But when I would squeeze my pee muscle repeatedly while stroking, I began to notice a different feeling. It was rubbing something that felt good, which must be caused by the prostate stimulation.  I couldn’t wait to experience a prostate orgasm at this point.  

When I felt this prostate orgasm beginning to happen, I also felt the muscles of my penis, pee muscle and anus all begin to flex, adding to new feelings.  I knew that these feelings were different and were due to the prostate stimulation working in my butt.

At that moment when God said “Let there be happiness”, I let out a quiet shreak as the prostate orgasm began, and my anus repeatedly squeezed open and closed, intensifying and extending the length of the orgasm.  It was most intense orgasm I have experienced!  Did I say it was intense?  YES, it was the most intense orgasm that I could experience — and if I could have done it over and over, I would have never left the room.

I could almost picture Star Trek and Scotty yelling, “I’m sorry Captain, but there is something stuck in the door and its going to blow!”

After this most intense prostate orgasm, I began to laugh.  The Aneros prostate toy had proved me wrong — there were toys that could improve the male orgasm by using a toy for prostate stimulation.

Removing the toy isn’t as much fun however.  My anus acted as though it didn’t want to let go of the toy that had just shook its world!  I gently tugged to remove the toy as it gently pulled back and said “NO”.  When the half-way mark of the prostate toy was out, my ass released and threw the toy at me, “Here!”.

Most prostate toys are white, REALLY white.  And that makes it very clear that you need to clean the toy really well with soap and water.  And once clean, the material does NOT maintain any odor.

[If you are easily grossed out, skip this paragraph].  After washing the toy in soap and water, and then drying, I held the toy to my nose and sniffed.  I could not tell that this toy had just been in no man’s land.

I experimented with that toy many times, to the point where I wasn’t enjoying sex if the prostate toy wasn’t in my ass!  That is how you know you are hoooked and it really was the most intense orgasm!

That is when I decided to experiment with the larger Aneros, the Progasm prostate toy.  It hurt like HELL to put this toy in my butt and to take it out, but it also provided a most intense orgasm, except that it was multipled many, many times when having it inside.  And my butt was sore for a day.  But to feel an orgasm that strong was worth the soreness.

After a while, I had to wean myself off butt toys because sex without a toy up my butt was boring, and the cum was … “ho-hum”.  That is so depressing to put on paper.  But it is true.

That tells you how powerful it can be.  I was having BODY SHAKING prostate orgasm s; I was weak in the knees after blowing my load; I was experiencing the most intense orgasm​ that my wife gets, AND MIKEY LIKEY!

Now, to keep myself from getting “used” to them, I only use my Aneros a few times per month.  That l

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Aneros keeps me from being bored with regular orgasms, but gives me that orgasmic high that prostate stimulation can deliver.

While I was in the testing stage, I tried some of the other products we were receiving such as the Rudemen series of anal toys, as well as a few Aneros competitors that didn’t last.  At one time, a UK company shipped me a few toys to try, but the design and feeling wasn’t the same and we chose not to carry their prostate toy line.

The biggest difficulty we have in selling the Aneros is the fear of putting a sex toy into the ass.  “You ain’t putting no toy in MY ass”.  I wish I had a $1 for every time that a man said that in the store.

But in those relationships where they agreed to experiment and use the toy, the wives returned to tell the employees how Mr Macho turned into Mr Whimperer after having the most intense orgasm of his life.  

Uh-huh.  You can still be a man and have a toy up your ass. 🙂

Lets talk technical stuff:  Every person is different; specifically the distance between the anal opening and the prostate; the angle or depth of the prostate in the anal canal, and more factors.  Because of this, the prostate stimulation might be less than or greater than what I experienced.

Aneros toys worked for me but not as good as some of my friends.  Some of the other brands might work better for other customers.  That is the nature of the game — you must experiment if you want to know.  Buy the toy and take the risk — it works for you or it doesn’t.  And if it works, you will be appreciative and non-judgemental of the price!

Also, I tried vibrating toys as well, but for prostate toys, I always returned to the non-vibe toys.  The feeling seemed better without the vibrations.  But that doesn’t mean I won’t try new vibrating toys when they come with a kick-starter.

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Prostate orgasms are the BEST. I have only recently discovered this incredible sensation (you can read all about it in my Nexus Revo 2 review) and it’s safe to say I am disappointed with myself for not unlocking and discovering that part of myself before this stage in my life.

Some men think you shouldn’t go near your own ass, that it somehow makes you ‘gay’ and I was verging on being one of those men, until I bit the bullet and tried it out and it’s safe to say I will never look back and I will forever encourage every man on earth to explore a little more with their own body.

(If you want even more sex toys make sure you check out my list of the Craziest Male Sex Toys and my Top 10 Male Sex Toys of 2017).

With this newfound explosive sensation I had found, I, of course, had to go searching for the best and here they are:


Apply some water-based lube and insert the Aneros Helix prostate massager into your rectum and gently rock back and forth for mind-blowing (hands-free) prostate orgasms. This sex toy really surprised me and why it is mentioned on this list, I doubted it would have much effect but it knows exactly where to press to send you over the edge.


Just kind of pops right in and feels fantastic. I would find it hard to believe that anybody could find this uncomfortable when inside them. It is barely noticeable until the pleasure starts to kick in.”


L-shaped for your peace of mind when it comes to safety, the arm even takes vibrations and sends them across your perineum for enhanced pleasure. Slip this prostate massager in with the help of some water-based lube and enjoy the thrilling  8 modes and 12 intensity levels that are easily operated via the remote control and take foreplay and masturbation to the next level.


“with lots of great patterns and strengths, delivered mind-blowing pleasure! No batteries are a plus, and it’s easy to clean, and arrives with a nice discreet storage case! A winner that every guy needs to try!”


This a premium prostate sex toy. Made from the finest silicone so it elegantly slips into position and boasts its constant speed and 5 patterns. Easy to use with button control and even a discreet flare at the base to prohibit unwanted ‘ride’. USB rechargeable (which I love in a sex toy) and wonderful inside and out.


 “I continued to writhe and quiver frantically till I could take no more and had to bring myself to climax. This climax was wonderful and made me want to go again for another round, just so I could experience the same pleasure I just had.”


The nexus Revo 2 changed my life and I’m not just saying that to sound dramatic. It’s discreet in design but not so discreet in the way it makes you buck around and scream out in ecstasy, it has 2 rotation speeds and 3 powerful modes that are easily controlled via the push button control. I made a whole review on this male prostate sex toy that I really suggest reading, I go into detail on my experience and give you insight and more detail on the product – The Ultimate Male Sex Toy


“Once inserted the fun really begins. I managed a hands-free orgasm, which is insane. Do you know what the best thing about a hands-free orgasm is? You’re ready to go again, immediately after! They also last longer”


This prostate sex toy looks and performs like it has just walked out of the future, not only is it perfectly designed to fit with ease and caress your P-spot, it also has 6 pre-programmed vibration modes for you to enjoy thanks to the help of the beautiful and luxurious remote control.

Once you’re ready you can also switch on the ‘SenseMotion’ setting and feel as it tailors vibrations to your movement, as if it was made for you and your body. It’s an incredible little sex toy and if can spare the cash, new or a veteran to prostate orgasms, this sex toy is wonderful.


“I had to try out and press everything and within minutes I was orgasmng and this went on and on, wave after wave. It literally left me in a state of euphoria both during use and well into the rest of my day.”


Sadly, due to its popularity, this prostate massager is out of stock but I have redirected you to a prostate massager that’s just as awesome and even has 7 functions instead of 5.

Remember to apply plenty of water-based lube when using any of these prostate sex toys.

This prostate massager is made from soft silicone and is perfectly crafted and tapered for your maximum pleasure, it has 5 jaw-dropping vibrations for you to choose from and the bullet vibrator can even be removed for more precise stimulation.

As you can see by the photo, the design is perfectly made for it to hit every spot and leave you breathless and gagging for more.


“We have used it several times and my wife even tried it on me. I am a manly man as they say and really was not sure, but it is only small and the sensations and the orgasms for both of us were incredible. It does have a lot of different settings so you can mix it up and it is silent. The texture is a very natural and soft feeling”


We have almost finished my list of the best prostate sex toys to help you achieve a prostate orgasm but before this list ends I have this beautiful massager to show you. The vibrations inside this incredible sex toy tingle andpush up against your P-spot, make their way down the shaft of the sex toy and all the way into the base where the anchored base will tease your perineum. It’s also waterproof so you can maximize your pleasure experience even in the shower or bath.


“The vibrations are strong, the rhythms are intense and it certainly touches all the right spots, ensuring an endless wave of good orgasms. It’s the toy which convinced me 100% to try others and made me realise what I’d been missing out on.”


Finally, this list draws to a close and ends on a high with this Tracey Cox (renowned Sexpert) vibrating butt plug. It’s small, discreet and unisex so you can switch between the both of you whenever you both feel like some incredible vibrations and even a prostate orgasm.

Have your partner use the controller and enjoy thrilling foreplay and sexwith the help of the curved butt plug that hits all of the right spots.


” I was blown away. If you’re looking for an intense and worthy orgasm, this is the product for you. I cannot wait to use it more and in different ways. “

My Top Rated Sex Toys For The Best Prostate Orgasm

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‘Better Than Pooping’: What It Feels Like to Have a Prostate Orgasm

Butts are trendy, but no one talks about the little gland that lives inside them. We asked a bunch of dudes what it feels like to have their prostates massaged, and we learned some other stuff, too.

Everyone is constantly talking about butts these days. Everyone is constantly starting articles about how everyone is constantly talking about butts these days. Both 2014 and 2015 were declared years of the ass. Butts are in, butts are it, butts probably won’t be out for a while.

Why? The little buddy is one of the main things that makes trendy, trendy assplay so compelling. As feminism continues its insidious creep into popular culture, men are expected to understand and appreciate the female anatomy and all the ways they can make it have orgasms. They are learning how big our eggs are, and that is great! However, this means that women will soon be finding ourselves the douchebags in this arena, if we do not do our due diligence. After I thought about it, I realized that my disappointing lack of knowledge about this particular feature of the male anatomy could not be considered fair. What is a prostate, exactly? Where is it? What natural foodstuff can it be compared to, size-wise? A blueberry? A grape? A cherry? A cherry tomato? A clove of garlic? A head of garlic? A walnut? A chestnut? A tangerine? An apricot? A lime? A kiwi? A plum? What is its point, evolutionarily speaking? Why are some men afraid of unlocking its supposedly boundless pleasure? What does it feel like when someone else messes around with it? Is it going to get cancer? Will doing tons of sex stop it from getting cancer? I had no idea! I asked around.

What is it?

From a practical perspective, the prostate is “the kinda hard bump you can feel when you reach your finger inside [an] ass and press against the walls,” according to Ryan*, a 37-year-old writer. From a medical dictionary perspective, it’s a gland, which is an organ that’s primary function is to secrete, and it’s located below the bladder, surrounding the urethra. It’s partially made out of muscular tissue and partially made out of glandular tissue; what it secretes is seminal fluid, which mixes with the spermies to make the stuff that goes in your hair. The muscular aspects are what help the prostate propel the seminal fluid into the urethra, to mix with the spermies, to go into your hair.ADVERTISEMENT

More facts: After puberty, it is the size of a walnut, but it gets larger as its host ages. “If you looked at it, it would look like a little ball with wings, kind of like the famous ball with wings from the Harry Potter movie [the Snitch],” explained sex and relationship coach Charlie Glickman, PhD, who wrote The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. To touch, he says, it feels like “a ripe plum,” firm yet slightly squishy.

Some people speculate that the intense pleasure of prostate stimulation prove the gland evolved “for” gay sex. However, as previously mentioned, its main function is storing and releasing semen, which is why many men say prostate stimulation is more intense if you apply pressure during ejaculation.

Also, surprise: Women have one, too. This tends to get overshadowed in comparative discussions of anatomy, because people often say the prostate is the “male G-spot.” This is understandable; both result in intense, specific types of orgasms after particular stimulation, and they can both result in more extreme projection of bodily fluid. However, this comparison is also engaged in a fallacy, because women have a collection of glandular tissue and ducts around our own (long-suffering) urethras that is also known as the prostate. Unfortunately, the female prostate is only really significant because it can get infected or develop cancer.

Photo via Wikimedia Commons

What does it feel like?

I made a point of telling many men that I was working on a sassy prostate explainer during the writing of this article. A clear divide quickly emerged in their responses. One group, the straights, got a scared look in their eyes and would ask something to the effect of, “Should I be afraid of getting cancer?” The second group was eager to explain to me what it feels like to have your prostate massaged/stimulated/poked/rubbed. There is no elegant verb for the experience, but there are many literary ways to describe the sensations it produces.ADVERTISEMENT

“It feels like someone put a marble in a stuffed animal, and you love that stuffed animal,” Frank*, a 26-year-old master’s student, told me. “It’s not waves of pleasure—it’s not piercing or sudden. It’s very localized. That’s why I said it’s like a marble.”

Unhelpfully, Ryan explained it the opposite way. “I get a lot of pressure and a lot of pleasure, but in waves that are hard to locate in a specific spot on my body—unlike, say, when someone plays with my penis, where it’s a much more localized sensation,” he said.

“A lot of men who we’ve talked to [in our research] have said that, when they experienced prostate massage for the first time, it felt like the beginning of an orgasm,” Glickman told me. “So imagine the beginning of an orgasm, but lasting for 20 minutes. Pretty fun, huh?”

Pretty fun, indeed—the dudes love it, as long as you aren’t just poking it with your pointy-ass fingers, though some people like that, too. “I once heard someone liken it to the feeling of pooping,” another guy, Sean*, told me. “I suppose that’s kind of true, though I’d say prostate stimulation is better (with the appropriate amount of pressure).”

It feels like someone put a marble in a stuffed animal, and you love that stuffed animal.

“It’s kind of like tickling,” Daniel continued. “You can’t tickle yourself.” Frank agreed. “There are a lot more bottoms in the world than tops, at least for casual sex,” he hypothesized. “Maybe not statistically, but on Grindr. In my travels, every city is like, ‘Well, you’re in Seattle, so there are only bottoms here,’ or ‘OMG, you’re a top? You must be the most popular person in Philly!’ I think it’s because you can’t really do it on your own. You can jack off, but someone else doing your prostate is pretty wild.”

You can also stimulate the prostate indirectly by massaging, with some pressure, the perineum, the body part between the testicles and asshole also known grossly as the “taint.” Many people are aware of this technique as a good thing to do, sex-wise, though fewer are aware that what is being massaged is the prostate.

Still, “it’s significantly more mild from the outside,” Frank said. “It’s like if you have a knot in your shoulder and you press that knot. Or if you pop your knuckles. It’s satisfying [but not amazing].”

One man, who wished to remain anonymous, agreed: Taint massage is “for wusses who won’t take a dick.”


Men have often used the threat of prostate cancer to coerce women into having sex with them, arguing that, according to science, “men who don’t have sex get prostate cancer and die.” This is emphatically not true, though studies have shown that men who ejaculate more often could have a lower risk of developing the disease. Luckily, they don’t need to have sex to do that!ADVERTISEMENT

In all seriousness, though, according to the American Cancer Society, prostate cancer is the second-most common cancer for American men; about one in seven guys will be diagnosed with the disease, and about one in 39 men will die of it. One in 39 sounds like a lot, but the survival rates are very high. Risk factors include family history, being over the age of 65, and living in certain areas. Weird: According to the Prostate Cancer Foundation, men living in rural China have a 2 percent chance of developing prostate cancer, the lowest risk in the world. By comparison, men living in the US have a 17 percent chance of getting the disease, and men who emigrate from Asia to western countries see their risk of developing prostate cancer rise significantly. Men who live above 40 degrees latitude (i.e., north of Philadelphia) have the highest risk in the United States, possibly because of the relative lack of sunlight up here. Sugary drinks and “bad carbs” can increase your risk of prostate cancer (and breast cancer), studies show.

Don’t be afraid

Ultimately, our lack of discussion about the prostate is related to the fact that guys are afraid of going up there. When Glickman was researching his book, “we heard three things over and over again,” he said. “One of them was that it hurts. The second one is that it’s going to get messy. The third one is that men receiving anal play makes them gay.” It doesn’t! And this fear can defeat the purpose of prostate play. “For straight people, if you’re too afraid to go in too far, you would miss the point,” Frank told me. “That is the worst part of learning how to have gay sex—learning to get past the anal sphincter. If you can’t get past the sphincter because you’re too nervous or too tight—that’s hard part.”

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