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Can Guys Orgasm Immediately From Prostate Play? Here’s What You Need To Know About The Male G-Spot

In hetero couples, there’s a lot of misconceptions and taboos around anal stimulation for men. But men have all the same nerve endings that women have that makes the area feel amazing and there’s one big difference: they have a prostate. Which is even more reason to get into anal play with men.

Personally, I think it’s a bit of latent homophobia that keeps guys from wanting to experiment with anal play, but I’ve found that even in the last few years more and more hetero guys seem to be getting on board and wanting to try. So, we need to figure out what to do. Because it’s supposed to be a pretty mind-blowing for them. After all, the prostate is considered to be the male G-spot.

So… what’s a prostate? And how can it give him an orgasm quickly like it does in the movies? Well, one of the methods of stimulating the male G-spot is called prostate milking. Milking. Gah. It makes my brain hurt. But there’s a good chance it’s effective, and probably your best bet for making him finish from prostate play. I promise, it’s better than it sounds. Basically the name comes from the fact that prostate secretes fluid that is an integral part of semen— in fact, it makes up about a third of it. If you prefer, think of it as a prostate massage.

We’ve got a couple of options here:

1. Manual Massage

Sex and relationship coach, Charlie Glickman PhD tells sex toy company LELO: “The prostate plays two roles in men’s sexual response cycle. First, it produces a portion of the fluid that becomes semen. During arousal, the prostate starts to fill up with this fluid, which is then mixed with sperm from the testicles and fluids from the seminal vesicles to become semen.”

The first way is a manual prostate massage. According to an infographic from LELO, 71 percent of men are open to trying it, but that number should probably be higher considering prostate orgasms are 33 percent bigger than penile orgasms.

Start with inserting a finger (Always well lubed, when it comes to anything anal— more lube than you think. Just use all of the lube.).

And then, Vice explains:

“One wall of the rectum is hard, like the roof of your mouth, and the other is soft. It is a surprisingly big cavern once you get past the entrance tunnel, so navigate towards the belly button until you feel the prostate gland, which is like a small round ball on the anterior side. It feels the size and shape of an almost ripe plum, with a cleft down the middle. Gently massage each lobe with no more pressure than you would use if touching your eyeball. Avoid the sensitized central area, and instead concentrate on either side. Massage in many different directions – left, right, horizontal, vertical, spell your name, etc. If you’re in the right spot, it should only take a few minutes”

If you’re feeling brave you can combine it with oral sex. If it’s all feeling a little much, but you still want your guy to experience prostate pleasure, you can try #2….

2. Prostate Massager

There are loads of options for prostate massagers out there, for different level of experience. The same rules about lube apply, but if you’re not really sure how to do it yourself, you or your partner can give a massager a go.

There’s more information here from the folks at sex toy store LoveHoney:Lovehoney on YouTube

So Will He Orgasm Immediately?

So a spontaneous on-the-spot orgasm? Maybe— but maybe not. But by all accounts prostate stimulation seems to be a very, very quick and pleasurable route to orgasm for most men, especially if combined with other sex acts. If you guys are feeling experiential or interested, it’s definitely worth talking about it and giving it a go. Just take it slowly. And remember the lube thing? Remember the lube thing.

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How to Have a Prostate Orgasm: Guide to Prostate Milking(

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Penile orgasms are great. Truly, they are.

But, when it comes to men’s pleasure, that’s not all there is. 

There’s another organ, that, when stimulated, can produce extraordinary, full-body orgasms that test the limits of what male pleasure can mean. 

Meet the prostate, everybody. A walnut-sized gland responsible for creating part of the fluid that comprises semen, it’s often referred to the “male G-spot” on account of the intense, wholly unique style of climax it can bring on. 

However, pleasure is only one benefit of prostate play. Regularly massaging and stimulating that area helps flush out the prostate, increase blood flood to the pelvic floor and strengthen the pelvic muscles; effects which can decrease impotence and help prevent prostate cancer. In fact, prostate massage –– or “prostate milking,” as it’s sometimes called –– is what many proctologists recommend to their patients in order to keep them healthy and high-functioning.  

But, enough about proctologists. Let’s get back to pleasure. Beyond the strength of the orgasms they can create and the novelty of an undiscovered kind of pleasure, the most fascinating aspect of prostates has to be their capacity for multiple orgasms. Because prostate orgasms can occur independently from ejaculation –– a phenomenon called “dry orgasm” –– they don’t undergo the same refractory period that prevents men from orgasming over and over. 

In layman’s terms, they can go all night. 

Anyone with a prostate can have a prostate orgasm, yet most men have never experienced one. So, in order to demystify the experience and help you discover one of your body’s most valuable, unexplored resources, we created a prostate-palooza of sorts to help you get started. 

Here’s how to find your prostate, stimulate it and learn how to have a prostate orgasm

What is prostate milking?

“Prostate milking” is just another word for prostate stimulation or massage. People do it for a variety of reasons, but the two most common ones are to improve prostate health and because it can feel really, really good. 

In fact, because the prostate is capable of orgasming in the absence of ejaculation, many men find they can have intense multiple orgasms without shedding a drop of semen. This can prolong and intensify pleasure and help them keep up with their partners.

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Who does it? 

Anyone with a prostate! 

While any type of anal play is often incorrectly labeled “gay men’s territory,” all people with prostates can enjoy this kind of stimulation regardless of their sexual orientation or relationship status. Playing with it won’t make you gay any more than eating spaghetti makes you Italian. Remember: the prostate is a gland, not a sexual orientation. 

Likewise, anyone of any gender or orientation can –– and does –– provide prostate stimulation for their partners. 

Additionally, while prostate stimulation is often thought of as something older men do to maintain their health at the request of their doctors, prostate stimulation can be fun no matter how long you’ve been alive. Like Pharrell, the prostate doesn’t age.

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Where is your prostate?

One of the first questions people have about prostate play is where the prostate (or P-spot) actually is. While it’s not visible from the naked eye, it’s not actually too hard to find inside the body. There are two ways to do it. 

1. Internally

If you want to find the prostate, you have to go through the rectum. The prostate sits about 3 or 4 inches up inside rectum, right below the bladder, on the same side of the body as the belly button. It’s roughly an inch wide, and tends to have the texture of a soft walnut or a ripe plum –– firm, but with a little give. Typically, the prostate has a distinct texture from the rest of the rectum, so you should be able to feel it, especially if the person is aroused. During arousal, the prostate starts to swell with blood and fluid that it releases during ejaculation, making it larger, firmer and more obvious to the touch.

2. Externally

Accessing the prostate externally is a less direct method, but it’s great for people who aren’t quite ready for anal penetration. To find it, press gently upward on the perineum (the area between the anus and the testicles) until you feel a firm bulge. If you don’t feel it right away, communicate with your partner to see if you can use a firmer touch. Once you feel it through the perineum, you can stroke it with your fingers or a toy from the outside. 

Who has a prostate?

Pretty much anyone who has a penis has a prostate. However, some trans women and non-binary folks do as well. By and large, folks who have uteruses do not have prostates. However, the prostate is analogous to the female G-spot in terms of how far inside the body it is, what sort of stimulation it tends to like, and the sort of toys that work best to access it. 

How to have a prostate orgasm

1. Consent and communication

While many folks think prostate play is the greatest thing ever, it’s 103 percent NOT something you should spring on an unsuspecting partner; nor is it a jolly, welcome surprise when the person doesn’t know it’s coming. We can’t pretend to know everything about you, but we’re guessing you wouldn’t want someone to randomly stick a finger or toy up your butt without your knowledge or consent, so do unto other’s butts as you’d have them do to yours and ask first. 

While you’re at it, ask them how they’d like their prostate to be played with. Your partner might have some experience in this area that provides some guidance, but you may also be working with someone who’s never experienced this before. Either way, it’s important to know where they’re at so you can provide the kind of touch that’ll feel best. 

If you’re the person being penetrated in this situation, make sure to let your partner know if you have any boundaries, needs or direction you’d like them to take –– not everyone is a certified Prostate Pro™, so the more communicative you can be about what feels good to you, the better you’ll equip your partner to do a good job. 

Alternatively, if you don’t have a partner and are playing alone, feel free to skip this step … or, get consent from yourself and have a rousing internal dialogue in the bathroom mirror about what feels good and what doesn’t. 

That’s cool too.

2. Prep

A huge part of having a prostate orgasm is relaxation, and a huge part of relaxation is knowing you’ve taken the necessary precautions to so that it can happen safely, comfortably, and in the absence of any unwanted mess. 

More specifically, you may want to douche.

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While some people possess a certain level of mystical intuition about the cleanliness of their rectums at any given time and don’t need to take this step, most of us aren’t quite sure whether the coast is clear down there or not. If you’re uncertain, a quick douche or household enema before you start playing can be a good idea. This will flush the rectum of any unwanted contents so you can focus on what’s going into the rectum, not what’s coming out. Some folks go full Hazmat and follow this up with a shower, but that’s really only necessary if you feel like it is. 

Trimming your fingernails is also another way to make things more comfortable for everyone. Whether you’re giving or receiving penetration, the skin around the anus is thin, sensitive and can tear, so keeping your fingers trimmed and clean as you explore that area is an excellent idea.  

Additionally, if you have a partner you’re not fluid-bonded with –– or if you have any reservations about hygiene or cleanliness –– it helps to have some paper towels and latex or nitrile gloves nearby.

3. Warm up

Prostate pleasure is largely predicated on how relaxed the anus and rectum are at the time of penetration. If someone is nervous or uncomfortable, their anal sphincter tends to tighten, making penetration painful. Their prostate is also likely to be less prominent and not as pleasurable. 

So, for the best shot at a prostate orgasm, it’s important that the person being penetrated (and their anus) is relaxed, comfortable and aroused. The more relaxed they are, the more relaxed their anal muscles will be, and the more prominent and sensitive their prostate will become (much like the G-spot, the prostate performs optimally when a person is already aroused and into it.)

Try warming up with some sensual body massage on whatever parts of you or your partner feel good to touch. It can be particularly effective to start broad, playing with other erogenous zones such as the nipples, necks and genitals, before moving towards the buttocks. Then, using long, slow grazes and strokes, massage the buttocks and external anal area until you feel your partner melt into your hands. Light spanking with a hand, crop, flogger or paddle can work too, if that’s your thing. Warming up like this will help increase circulation to your partner’s anal area, which helps them relax. It also shows that you care about their pleasure and comfort –– you’re here for their whole body, not just that amazing thing inside their anus. 

However, it’s your warm-up. Do whatever you need to do to feel relaxed and aroused. If you’re not sure how to get your partner as turned on as you can before you start touching their prostate, the simple art of asking them is a great way to find out.

4. Lube, lube and more lube

Because the anus, rectum and prostate do not self-lubricate, it’s up to you to take on that exciting role. Lubrication is especially important for any type of penetrative anal play because it protects sensitive tissues from tearing, provides a cushion of comfort, and enhances pleasurable sensations pretty much anywhere you put it. It also makes inserting something into the anus –– and removing it later –– an easier and more comfortable process.

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Exsens of Paris Aloe Vera Lubricant

So, before you start, apply a generous amount of high quality lube to both the anus and whatever is being used to penetrate it. You can also use what’s called a “lube shooter” to get lube higher up into the rectum, closer to the prostate.

5. Go for it!

What happens next is largely dependent on whether you’re using a toy, fingers or a penis to stimulate the prostate, but in general, the safest bet is to insert whatever you’re inserting into the anus quite slowly, and stop once it’s about 3-ish inches in. If what you’re using has a curved head, insert it so the curve is facing frontwards (towards the navel.) The curve should either naturally fit around the prostate or should put some direct pressure on it. Adjust as necessary. 

If what you’re using does not have a curve, angle it slightly towards the navel, or move it around until you or your partner can feel it on the prostate. If you’re using fingers, curve them in a “come-hither” shape and feel around until you find a plump, ridged bulge with a distinctly different texture than the rest of the rectum. That’s the prostate! You found it. Great job.

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LELO Bruno Prostate Massager

From here, do whatever feels good! You can either use your fingers or a prostate toy to get you going. Some folks respond to a thrusting, in-and-out motion where something slips back and forth across the prostate but doesn’t necessarily target it. This method is best for people who either don’t like direct prostate pressure, or who just enjoy the feeling of anal penetration in general.

Others prefer a more direct feeling. Some people like when their partners massage their prostate with their fingers using tiny circles or a “come hither” motion. Others prefer to clench and un-clench their kegel muscles, pulsing what’s penetrating them against their prostate in a sort of knocking manner (which is actually what proctologists recommend people do with toys for prostate health.) 

In general, the prostate tends to respond to firm, repetitive pressure, almost like you’re coaxing it towards the navel. But, because everyone’s body is different, make sure to communicate with your partner (or yourself) about whether it’s too hard, too soft, just right or some mix of all three. Experiment with different sensations and modes of touch until you find something that works for you. There’s no right or wrong way to stimulate a prostate –– it’s all about what that prostate’s owner finds most exciting.

Continue with the sort of stimulation that feels good until you climax. We put together a list of the best prostate toys for you here.

That’s great, but what does a prostate orgasm actually feel like?

Because each person is different, there are an infinite amount of answers to this question. Many men say that prostate pleasure feels like the beginning of an orgasm; like when the sensation is just beginning to climax and they hit a point of no return. However, with prostate orgasms, this sensation tends to be much more long-lasting, expansive, and full-body. Since prostate orgasms can occur in the absence of ejaculation, many people find they can make this sensation last as long as they want.

Much like the quality of orgasm differs between clitoris and G-spot, the quality of orgasm differs between the penis and prostate. It doesn’t feel like a penile orgasm (although it may be accompanied by one.) Rather, it’s its own, unique sensation that can be really exciting to discover. Many folks find it empowering to know that they’re able to experience orgasm from more than one erogenous zone, and it can be liberating to have the weight of your sexual expression dispersed across body parts other than the penis.  

But, don’t take our word for it … let’s hear from some folks who have actually had one. 

“For me, I find that I am simply overcome by the sheer power of the orgasm. It’s not a whole lot better, per se, but it is a lot stronger. As in after it happens I’m stuck there out of breath and trembling for at least a few minutes. As if all of my energy had just been sucked out of my body and concentrated into a ridiculous orgasm. P-spot is the way to go. It doesn’t replace a regular orgasm, but it makes a really nice treat every once in a while.”

Source: Rooster Magazine

“They are amazing! It feels like you’re brought to the brink of orgasm, but you stay there for a long time before the pleasure just takes over and you explode. I do think it can be difficult when you try to achieve a prostate orgasm by yourself. You end up focusing on the thrusts instead of being able to fixate on the immense pleasure. It’s much better with a partner when you are able to lie there and just enjoy the feeling, while they go to town on it.”

Source: Reddit

“It feels so good to know that I can come in more ways than one. I’ve always sort of envied women’s ability to do that, and to experience my own ‘male G-spot,’ as it were, has been an extremely enlightening and exciting experience. Is ‘liberated’ the right word?” – Anonymous Ella employee

How to use a prostate massager

If you don’t have a partner to milk your prostate or your own fingers aren’t doing the trick, you can always buy a prostate massaging toy. 

While anything inserted into the anus can technically stimulate the prostate, most prostate-specific massagers are designed to fit snugly around the prostate or to sit directly on it. For this reason, many are curved or angled. This makes it easier to locate and massage the prostate directly, as opposed to the greater area it sits in. Additionally, prostate massagers have a flared base or handle that keeps it from getting pushed too far up, and makes it easy to adjust and remove. 

To use your toy, make sure you follow the same guidelines laid about above in terms of lubrication, relaxation and arousal. When you’re ready, apply a generous amount of lube to the toy of your choice, and insert it very slowly with the curve facing forward (towards the navel). You should be able to feel when the toy is in place –– you may notice a little jolt of pleasure, sensitivity or the sensation of the toy “fitting.”

Great. Now, you can go one of two ways. 

The first is to stimulate yourself by manually moving the toy in whatever way feels good. 

The other is a more hands-free situation. With the toy comfortably in place, begin to clench and un-clench your kegel muscles. This will cause the toy to bob up and down, pulsing the head of the toy on the prostate. If the toy is on the thinner side (see: Aneros Progasm Prostate Massager), this may also cause the toy to rock back and forth gently so that every time you clench, the head lightly “taps” the prostate. 

You can do this for however long you like! Many prostate massagers are designed to be worn for multiple hours, meaning you can discreetly wear them all around town, doing your prostate exercise, and no one will be the wiser. 

Back at home, feel free to combine this technique with hands, mouths, vaginas, other anuses, strokers or whatever else sends you over the top. The more blood flow and arousal you can conjure up during prostate play, the better it can feel and the healthier it is for you and your prostate. 

Prostate Pro-Tips

1. If you happen to have a G-spot, think about what sort of pressure or stimulation that would feel good for you. Chances are, because the prostate and G-spot are analogous structures, what feels good for you will feel good for your partner (although make sure to communicate to make sure that’s true for them.)

2. Kegel muscles! Everyone has them. Not only do they help us control urination and genital blood flow, they also assist during orgasm by providing waves of pleasurable contractions that stimulate nerves all over the pelvic floor. Learning to control and strengthen your kegel muscles can help you increase circulation to the prostate (and genitals), which can help you have stronger, longer-lasting prostate orgasms. 

3. Some folks love prostate stimulation on its own, but others get more out of it when their penis is being stimulated at the same time. Good thing you can easily combine prostate play with oral sex, penetrative sex or strokes from a hand or a toy to ensure all the right spots are being hit. 

4. If the receiver feels a sudden urge to urinate, that might mean you’re using a tad too much pressure. Slow down and go a bit lighter –– it might feel a bit more comfortable (unless, that is, they’re enjoying that sensation.)

5. Even when you’ve taken all the right steps to lubricate and arouse the prostate, some folks don’t really feel much. Others can feel it just fine; they just don’t necessarily enjoy it. Both reactions are totally okay. Prostate play is not everyone’s thing, and it might take a few times for it to start feeling optimal (if it does at all.) Keep experimenting, though –– it tends to feel better the more often you try. If nothing’s working, it might not be you –– try switching up the position you’re in, what toys you’re using or the partner you’re doing it with.

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Want more tips? Check out the full instructional video below from our friends at CalExotics:

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Prostate massage(

Male genital anatomy

Prostate massage is the massage or stimulation of the male prostate gland for medical purposes or sexual stimulation.

The prostate takes part in the sexual response cycle, and is essential for the production of semen. Due to its proximity to the anterior rectal wall, it can be stimulated from the anterior wall of the rectum or externally via the perineum.


Medical uses

Digital rectal examination (DRE)

Prostate massage is part of the digital rectal examination (DRE) routinely given to men by urologists in order to look for nodules of prostate cancer and to obtain an expressed prostatic secretion (EPS) specimen for microscopy and microbiological culture to screen for prostatitis.

Therapy for prostatitis

Main article: Prostatitis

In the late 1990s, a small number of doctors tried prostate massage in conjunction with antibiotics for the treatment of chronic bacterial prostatitis with uncertain results.[1][2] In recent trials, however, prostate massage was not shown to improve outcomes compared to antibiotics alone.[3] As a consequence of these findings, prostate massage is not officially sanctioned in western medicine for the treatment of any medical disorder today. Prostatic massage should never be performed on patients with acute prostatitis, because the infection can spread elsewhere in the body if massage is performed.[4]


Once the most popular therapeutic maneuver used to treat prostatitis, it was abandoned as primary therapy in the 1960s.[5]

In the late 1990s the ineffectiveness of drug treatments for chronic prostatitis led to a brief resurgence of interest in prostate massage.[1][2] In a recent trial, however, prostate massage was not shown to improve outcomes compared to antibiotics alone.[3]

The practice is still used in some parts of China.[6]


Vigorous prostate massage has been documented to have injurious consequences: periprostatic hemorrhage,[7] cellulitis, septicaemia, possible disturbance and metastasis of prostate cancer to other parts of the body, and hemorrhoidal flare-up, and rectal fissures.[8][9]


Electroejaculation is a procedure in which nerves are stimulated via an electric probe, which is inserted into the rectum adjacent to the prostate. The stimulus voltage stimulates nearby nerves, resulting in contraction of the pelvic muscles and ejaculation. It is most commonly encountered in animal husbandry for the purpose of collecting semen samples for testing or breeding. Some devices are used under general anesthesia on humans who have certain types of anejaculation.[10] Electroejaculation is a different procedure from manual prostate massage.

As a sexual practice

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Prostate massage is also used for sexual stimulation, often in order to reach orgasm. It is possible for some men to achieve orgasms through prostate stimulation alone.[11][12] The prostate is sometimes referred to as the “male G-spot” or P-spot.[13] Some men can achieve orgasm through stimulation of the prostate gland, such as prostate massage or receptive anal intercourse, and men who report the sensation of prostate stimulation often give descriptions similar to females’ accounts of G-spot stimulation.[11][14] Prostate stimulation can produce a stronger, more powerful, and “deeper” orgasm than solely penile stimulation, described by some men as more widespread, intense, and enduring, and allowing for greater feelings of ecstasy than orgasm elicited by penile stimulation only.[11] However, though the experiences are different, male orgasms by penile stimulation are also centered in the prostate gland.[15]

Prostate massage may also be a sexual practice in couples’ sexual lives, although not as common. The availability of equipment and products for prostate massage can encourage people to try it. Many couples, though, do not purchase such devices but use a finger for anal penetration and prostate stimulation to enhance the man’s orgasm. The finger or the prostate massager is introduced into the rectum through the anus and the prostate gland is gently massaged. The main problem in using the finger is that it may be too short to reach the prostate gland. Prostate massage can be performed individually or with the help of a partner.

There are safety matters relating to prostate stimulation and anal penetration. It is strongly recommended that plenty of lubricant be used with prostate massagers to prevent rectal lining damage. A smaller instrument or finger may be introduced gradually to minimize the discomfort that some may feel. Massagers may be used with or without a condom; however, because of the bacteria found in the rectum, if a condom is not used, it is very important to clean the tool with soap before use in another orifice or by a partner. Receiving anal stimulation may cause feelings of having to evacuate. More often than not, this is just a sensation that the stimulation causes and may take some getting used to.[16]


A prostate massager is a device for massaging the prostate gland. The shape of a prostate massager is similar to a finger, since prostate massages are traditionally given digitally (for example, via fingering). They usually have a slightly curved head to effectively massage the prostate. Lubricant is necessary before inserting anything into the anus, so a lubricant is used. Caution should be exercised when a prostate massager is used because of the sensitivity of the prostate. Correct use involves a medium to light repetitive massage, or circular motion—the device being used to administer the massage should not thrust.

Prostate massage equipment ranges from dildos to butt plugs and G-Spot vibrators. When used in sexual practice, prostate massagers are commonly referred to as “prostate toys”, “prostate sex toys“, and “anal toys”. These prostate massagers are inserted into the rectum through the anus and are intended to stimulate the prostate by simple massaging or vibrating. They are used during foreplay by many couples.

Prostate dildos are similar to vaginal dildos, but they tend to be more curved, slimmer and with a softer texture. Some of the new prostate dildos on the market are driven by batteries and offer vibration at the tip; the speed or intensity of which may be changed depending on the subject’s personal preference. Unlike vaginal dildos, the anal prostate massager has a flared end to prevent it from being fully inserted and ‘lost’ inside the rectum.

Some men prefer butt plugs, which are easy to use, can be inserted freely and left in place while the man’s hands are free for other sexual activities such as masturbation. Anal plugs also come in various shapes, sizes and designs and are not commonly intended to stimulate the prostate. Newer, more angled models (second generation) of prostate massagers have been developed to provide a more direct and thorough massage of the prostate gland.[17] These new devices feature a more curved shape and are slightly longer than the originals. They commonly have a narrow neck and a flared end to avoid losing them in the rectum. While many massagers rely upon the body’s own natural muscular contractions of the anal sphincter and anal wall to stimulate the prostate, some of the newer models come with vibrators built into them to increase sexual pleasure.

A G-spot vibrator can be used as a prostate massager as long as it is handled carefully and is provided with a safety base that will not allow it to be lost in the rectum. Vibrators for prostate stimulation usually have a pronounced curve at the end.

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A naked man is on all fours. A naked woman is knelt behind him wearing a pink strap-on dildo. The woman is preparing to penetrate the man's anus with the dildo.

A woman pegging a man doggy style with a 4-strap harness and dildo

Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating the man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. This practice may also involve stimulating the male genitalia.

The neologism “pegging” was popularized when it became the winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage‘s “Savage Love” sex advice column, held after an observation was made that there was no common name or dictionary definition for the act in the English language.[1]


Pleasurable aspects

Physical pleasure

Main article: Strap-on dildo

In terms of physical pleasure, a woman’s genitals may get direct stimulation from the base of the dildo, or in the case of a double-ended dildo, from vaginal (or internal) penetration. A woman can use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her genitals, to get pleasure from pegging. Men may find stimulation of the anus, rectum, and especially the prostate, pleasurable. During anal sex, male pleasure can be particularly derived from the prostate, which can lead to an orgasm and ejaculation.[2] Some men enjoy masturbating (or being manually stimulated) during pegging. Triple-ended dildos provide both vaginal and anal stimulation of the female partner.

Psychological pleasure

Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate them to the receiver’s perspective in sex.[1]

Instructional materials

A few instructional movies and books have emerged in recent years, including Bend Over Boyfriend (1998), Based on a series of lectures and workshops by Robert Lawrence and Carol Queen and co-produced by Fatale Media, Inc. The movie was created and directed by Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano, SIR Video Movies co-founders. Bend Over Boyfriend originally inspired Dan Savage to call the act “BOBing” but his readers subsequently voted on the winning term, “pegging”.[3]

American pornographic film director and sex educator Tristan Taormino released an instructional pegging movie in 2009 by Vivid Entertainment Studio, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men,[4] featuring a detailed explanation about male anal pleasure and strap-on dildo sex. In it, she teaches a workshop with instructions and skills for safe and pleasurable female on male anal sex. There are three scenes, in which pairs of pornographic actors explore different sexual devices and positions for pegging.

As an author of numerous sex guides and informational books on various sexual taboos, Violet Blue wrote and released The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Strap-On Sex in 2007.

Since 2010, the sex educator by the screen name of Ruby Ryder has been running a blog and podcast entitled Pegging Paradise. As of September 2017, the podcast has over 166 episodes.[5] She also runs the instructional site Pegging: 101 which is especially targeting those interested in pegging with no interests in the association with BDSM. [6]

In film

The first pegging scene in film (long before the term was coined) appears to have been in the 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, based on the novel of the same name by Gore Vidal, although it was not explicit. The first explicit pegging scene is believed to have been in the 1976 pornographic film The Opening of Misty Beethoven.[3]

Female-to-male strap-on pornography became a popular subgenre in the early 21st century, with a number of studios producing dedicated series about it. Pegging films include Strap It On, Babes Ballin Boys, Strap Attack, Strap-on Chicks, Boss Bitches, various films produced by LEDA Studios, as well as San Francisco-based BDSM themed website Men In Pain.

Female porn stars who expressed their pleasure in pegging their male partners include Taylor Wane, Debi Diamond, Brittany Andrews, and Monique Covét. When questioned about her particular kink, Covét replied, “If we women have to take it from behind, then why not a man?”[7]

In popular culture

While not necessarily referred to as “pegging,” the following popular culture works make reference at least to the concept.

  • The Marquis de Sade describes a pegging act in his 1795 book Philosophy in the Bedroom.[8][9]
  • There is a depiction of pegging in the William S. Burroughs 1959 novel Naked Lunch. The dildo used in the scene is called a Steely Dan III, and is the source from which the musical group Steely Dan takes its name.[10][11]
  • Pegging was featured in the 2005 series of the UK comedy Peep Show (2005), in a scene where Jeremy (Robert Webb) is pegged by his then girlfriend Michelle (Shelley Blond).[12]
  • It was featured in the television show Weeds, during the episode “Crush Girl Love Panic” (2006).[3]
  • In the January 2007 pilot episode of Dirt, Lucy Spiller (Courteney Cox) blackmails Prince Tyreese (Rick Fox) with photographs of him being pegged by a prostitute.[3]
  • The September 2007 film YPF features a storyline in which a couple who feel their lovemaking has become boring over time, attempt to spice up their sex by trying pegging.[3]
  • The theatre company Pack of Others have an entire theatrical performance devoted to “spreading the word about the pleasures of prostate stimulation and strap-on sex”.[13] The show has toured nationally and won Best Comedy at the 2008 San Francisco Fringe Festival.[14]
  • In the episode “Knockoffs” of TV series Broad City, Abbi Abrams pegs Jeremy Santos.[15]
  • In the 2016 movie Deadpool, an R-rated pegging scene was enacted as part of a montage of sexual activity between Wade Wilson and his girlfriend Vanessa Carlysle.[16]

See also


These three links chronicle how the term pegging came into usage.

“The male hot spot — Massaging the prostate”. Go Ask Alice!. March 28, 2008. Archived from the original on October 10, 2011. Retrieved July 5, 2016. Nault, Curran (Summer 2010). “Bend Over Boyfriend to Take it Like a Man: pegging pornography and the queer representation of straight sex”. Jump Cut (52). Retrieved July 5, 2016. Bridges, Ana J.; Sun, Chyng; Wosnitzer, Robert; Scharrer, Erica; Liberman, Rachael (September 2008). “A comparison of male and female directors in popular pornography: what happens when women are at the helm?”. Psychology of Women Quarterly. 32 (3): 312–325. doi:10.1111/j.1471-6402.2008.00439.x. Ruby Ryder’s Pegging Paradise. Pegging: 101“Not just another Barbie”. The Budapest Sun. July 25, 2002. Archived from the original on March 2, 2012. Retrieved July 5, 2016. Sade, Marquis (2010). La Philosophie dans le boudoir [Filozofija v budoarju ali Nemoralni učitelj] (in Slovenian). Ljubljana: Center za slovensko književnost. p. 110. ISBN978-961-6789-14-1. Philosophy in the Boudoir: Or, The Immoral Mentors. Penguin Classics. 2006. p. 74. ISBN978-0143039013. Sweet, Brian (2000). Steely Dan: Reelin’ in the Years. Omnibus Press. p. 42. ISBN978-0-7119-8279-6. “Official Steely Dan FAQ”. Retrieved July 5, 2016. “Peep Show – Episode Guide – Episode One: Mugging (11 November 2005)”. Channel 4. Retrieved July 5, 2016. “Peg-Ass-Us”. Pack of Others. Retrieved July 5, 2016. Jones, Chad (September 23, 2008). “Fringe felicitations: Best of winners, encores announced”. Retrieved July 5, 2016. Hope, Clover (February 5, 2015). “Last Night’s Broad City Was All About Pegging”. Jezebel. Retrieved July 5, 2016.

  1. Le Vine, Lauren (February 9, 2016). “We Need to Talk About the Pegging Scene in Deadpool. Refinery29. Retrieved July 5, 2016.

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Anal and prostate stimulation (

See also: Pegging and prostate massage

In both sexes, pleasure can be derived from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself, such as during anal sex. It is possible for men to achieve orgasms through prostate stimulation alone. The prostate is the male homologue (variation) to the Skene’s glands (which are believed to be connected to the female G-spot), and can be sexually stimulated through anal sex, perineum massage or via a vibrator. Prostate stimulation can produce a deeper orgasm, described by some men as more widespread and intense, longer-lasting, and allowing for greater feelings of ecstasy than orgasm elicited by penile stimulation only. The practice of pegging (consisting of a woman penetrating a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo) stimulates the prostate. It is also typical for a man to not reach orgasm as a receptive partner solely from anal sex.

For women, penile-anal penetration may also indirectly stimulate the clitoris by the shared sensory nerves, especially the pudendal nerve, which gives off the inferior anal nerves and divides into the perineal nerve and the dorsal nerve of the clitoris. The G-spot area, which is considered to be interconnected with the clitoris, may also be indirectly stimulated during anal sex. Although the anus has many nerve endings, their purpose is not specifically for inducing orgasm, and so a woman achieving orgasm solely by anal stimulation is rare. Direct stimulation of the clitoris, a G-spot area, or both, while engaging in anal sex can help some women enjoy the activity and reach orgasm during it.

The aforementioned orgasms are sometimes referred to as anal orgasms, but sexologists and sex educators generally believe that orgasms derived from anal penetration are the result of the relationship between the nerves of the anus, rectum, clitoris or G-spot area in women, and the anus’s proximity to the prostate and relationship between the anal and rectal nerves in men, rather than orgasms originating from the anus itself.

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